Associate Psychologists:
Pericles de Albuquerque & Doraci Melo
CRP 02/19055 CRP 02/20861

When we are born, we cannot survive on our own. That is
why we despair in the first few days. We start crying excessively just because we are hungry or thirsty or
because we are dirty from defecating or urinating. In a few
days we discover that something (our mother, father, or
another relative) will help us. As the days go by, we begin
to trust this unknown thing that helps us. If this person
treats us with affection, we learn to trust. If by chance it is
a person who is impatient and mistreats us all the time, we
conclude, even before we learn to speak, that we should
not trust what we are seeing and, even worse, that the
world is naturally violent like this. That is why we need to
understand ourselves from the beginning to understand
how we are now.
However, if we lived in an environment where everyone
put us down as children, we became submissive and, as a
result, we put our own desires aside and always tried to
satisfy the desires of others. This later makes us upset. If

we lived with people who avoided having friends or even
avoided socializing with relatives, we became antisocial
and, in old age, we suffered from extreme loneliness and it
was difficult to make friends overnight.
Tha's why we need to talk about the subject to improve
the way we see ourselves and the world, and in that case,
what would my new possibilities be?